Monday, July 14, 2008

5 months

He would be five months old today. I have dreaded this day all week. I have been very curious lately about the milestones he would be hitting. What would he be doing? I want so badly to "google" 5 month milestones, but I know it will only leave me more depressed. I want him home, I want him back. I often hear "he isn't coming home," these are harsh words that I don't like. I keep holding on to the thought that just maybe I will wake up from this terrible dream.
We go to his resting place everynight....to "tuck him in bed." We haven't missed a night in 5 months, except when we went to Florida (and even then I sent my best friend, Emily, and her husband to tell him goodnight.) I can't imagine not going everyday. There are some days that the mere thought of digging down to embrace him would be "ok." I want so badly to just cradle him in my arms. I want to stroke his hair and pat his butt. I just want everything to be the way we had planned. I can't accept that it isn't nor will it ever be. How do you go on? How do you accept it?

I promise maybe one day I will post when I have a hint of positive things to say, but for now, I am not optimistic....I am crushed. I don't know how much more I can take. I feel like I am going in insane. I was at mom and dad's today and heard this song....it sure puts to words the way I feel today.

I still reach for you In the middle of my dreams each night
But my arms come up empty every time

And lately I talk to your memory
More than I should

If I could just forget the past
I would
Cause this missing you ain't doing me no good
I'm so close to crazy
Right on the edge
Just one step away from going insane

But I'm not there yet
If I could just lose my mind

I wouldn't know we're really gone
But this close to crazy
Is far from over you

Please pray for the following things:
1. Strength to get me through today
2. a job to open and come my way
3. My husband and I's relationship
4. The blessing of a new baby

God is much larger than you and me, and I hold on to my faith that He can heal our pain and sorrow.

"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit (Psalms 34:18)."

4 comments:

The Cantlons said...

Destiny,

As always, I will keep you and Jesse in my prayers. I am always here if you need anything. I am going to miss you next year, and I do hope that you will keep in touch. Please let me know if there is anything I can do for you (anytime). Take care of yourself.

Jess

Grandma and Grandpa said...

Destiny and Jessie

I have no words for you, just an ear if you need it. 474-3885, hellotoclark@comcast.net, 2311 Old Romney Rd. Love all of you so much.

Rodney and Courtney Solomon said...

Destiny and Jesse~ You are always in our thoughts and prayers! A cousin once told me that God will only give you what he thinks you can handle...I know right now it probably seems that you can't handle what God has given...but I disagree...you both are very strong people and will continue to gain strength everyday with family, friends', and God's help. Please lean on me anytime. We love you, Courtney Solomon

Katie said...

its so hard isnt it??
praying for you!

 
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